We found another house that we are making an offer on. I'm sure it will get turned down unless they are desperate to sell. But although I love the old victorian we found, it's like 1.5 miles from the train plus it's near the not so good elementary school for our imaginary children. The other house is 2 blocks from the train and a block from downtown and the good elementary school.
Apparently also now since we are looking for a house so are my younger brother and his wife, which is good, I just don't need my parents comments comparing the two. My husband and I want a bigger house, with probably 4 bedrooms, finished attic and a bigger yard. It's not like it's a mansion! It's a normal sized house. My brother however is looking at a less expensive row home. I send my mom the link to the new house we are looking at and her comment is "it's more expensive and very big" and then proceeds to tell me about the house my brother looked at like it was so much better. No one takes into consideration that we need to be near the city for work, an hour away from the city in PA is cheaper than NJ and we have two very active dogs who need a fenced in yard, they have one sluggish bulldog. My brother and his wife are cool with things. They could care less. I just would rather not hear about my big house and was I going to get a cleaning person, what is it any of their business? And also have they met my husband? He's cheap. We will be cleaning that big house ourselves. And also, it's our money who cares? We are 35 years old and already own one house. I think we can figure out what we are doing. We aren't asking for money or anything.
But it is like this with everything. I feel like my mother likes to make it a competition and I really just want to be left alone. I wanted a big house so I can have family over for holidays. But no matter what I do, it's never good enough. I was the smart kid who always had good grades, my brother not so much. But whatever I did, I could never live up to him. Even now, I finished my masters in library science years ago and have been a librarian for awhile now in a good paying position. My brother, starts working for his college's library while going back to school for teaching, somehow gets a job in the library full time and is now thinking about going to library school. She acts like it's some revolutionary thing, not that her oldest didn't graduate already? She even made it sound like he had a masters and I didn't. Wtf? It's not like I haven't been in this business for years now and have a decent salary. College libraries don't pay that much.
And she's doing it with kids now too. It's like some race to see who gets the first kid, even though I'm sure mine will be the problem children just like my dogs are.
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